Naomi Wolf says porn is destroying modern sex lives


I watched and read a lot of porn when I was a teenager and a young infantryman in the Marine Corp. As a result, for a long time it screwed up my understanding of intimacy and relationships. Not what a woman should be like in the bedroom but how a man should perform.

Okay, maybe about women in the bedroom too.

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Getting love backwards since 1968.

I was too young to understand the role of fluffers and dependency on drugs in order to maintain. Heck, I was 34 when I learned what a fluffer did on a set.

It never occurred to me at the age of sixteen editing played a role in what I saw. I just assumed there was something wrong with me.

Throw in parents living with their own legacy of sexual abuse, sexual ignorance, shame based morality, alcoholism and control issues and it is no wonder I chased the bad girls and attention whores only to become more confused when I caught them.

I joke with a friend that I was poorly trained. In truth, it isn’t really a joke. The poor training has resulted in a lifetime of unintended and unforeseeable consequences.

Porn is not bad. It isn’t wrong. It isn’t dangerous. It only has the power we apply to it. Although it may not be right for everyone, I am in no position to be the judge and jury of your needs or motivations for watching some porn with other consenting adults.

I certainly don’t believe there is a role in our Republic for morality police enforcing archaic superstitious rules onto grown men and women.

What is dangerous is ignorance.

In my case, poor teachers (both formal and informal), lack of education and a shame and secret based family dynamic contributed to years of my confusion and angst as well as a number of good and caring about people being hurt.

This is the root of my opposition to abstinence based sex education: it relies on providing incomplete and willful misinformation to young men and women. It ignores human nature. It breeds stupidity resulting in cycles of bad decision making that impact generations.

As such, I think this is an excellent article by Naomi Wolf. I shared it with my stepsons and some of their friends.

I hope you will make a few minutes to read it.

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